Crying out in Pain might be just what you need to relieve it.

What is pain? An electronic neuron that sends messages from your sore body part to the brain to let it and you know there is something wrong, off, hurt, malfunctioning, damaged or imbalanced in some way. Our immediate response after we scream, yell, or moan in discomfort, is to just STOP it.

Stop that pain from continuing, spreading or intensifying. Our immediate thought is “What can I take to stop his pain?” The medicine cabinet is raided first to find the pain–killers; pills, tinctures, creams, bag of peas, liquor or anything to numb the pain. As neuron transmitters, their job is to let your brain know that your body is in pain and not at ease, that you need to remedy this pain so that you can return to a balanced state.

Sometimes medicine can’t remove the pain but at the very least it can block the transmission signal from site to brain to help relax. How do we stop the pain? Better yet, make it go away and not come back? How do we interpret the meaning of pain so we can give the pain what it really deserves, a way out to release and be healed.

Pain has so much to say. If we ignore its first simple cries it will only start to get louder. If we try to shut it to silence or into numbness it will begin to stomp and pound so you can hear and feel its presence. Ignoring its presence will force the pain to get louder still and be more consistent. Like a crying child it will not go away until it gets the attention it wants and has all its needs met.

Step One; is to identify the type of pain you are experiencing. Is it physical, emotional or mental? Get to know the pain sensations as you would get acquainted with a new friend. Know more to understand how it behaves, what are its needs and wants in order to learn what can best remedy the pain – away.

Physical pain is easy to identify as it talks through the body or screams from a particular body part. It will show you what is affected by swelling, creating bruise, an ache or a rash. You can quickly decide that it needs ice over cream and give yourself relief.

Emotional pain is harder to identify as it has no visible signs. In order for the pain to get your attention it must transfer to a physical pain and present itself through a body part, to get your attention. To identify emotional pain we must see and hear the pain usually rooted in the heart.

Mental anguish and worry can also produce much pain in the head or neck. Headaches or confusion are the first easily identified signs of pain affecting our mental thinking capacity. The mind will use the body parts to send you signals of painful distress. It will also use heart felt emotional signals to show its state of unhappiness.

Step Two; What triggered the response you are experiencing? What caused the pain? Some kind of injury, distress, or force created this unpleasant sensation that reacts in pain. It is usually a hurt of some kind that threatens your lively hood or survival. This hurt wants your attention, so that you can take the right action to help it return to balance or pleasure. Pain is the media it uses to communicate with.

Step Three; Would be to accept this message of pain and give it what it wants. Accept the hurt and the signs of pain in whatever form it presents itself. By acknowledging its presence you accept that the pain is real and alive instead of suppressing pain into silence or being ignored. This will allow your relationship to begin to form and give you some power over the situation to be able to respond with a remedy of action.

Stage Four; Make pain your friend. Be there for your pain, as you would for a friend. Support it by showing it love. Embrace it when it comes knocking at the door. Talk to pain to know it. Have a heart to heart conversation about how it is feeling, thinking, sensing and acting out. Find out why it is present and how did it arrive. If a friend were in distress or pain you would spend time with your friend listening to the whine and complaints. Show your pain the same level of friendly attention, care and support. As you would with a friend ask; “How can I help you feel better? What do you need to relieve this pain?” Then listen careful, with your all your senses open. Listen with your heart to decipher the message to get to the root of the painful issue. There a story to be heard and a lesson to be learned and released.

Step Five; Help pain find release through expression and then give it love and support. Have compassion for the pain as it is presenting itself. Help it find release so that it may find its peace and balance, in the body, in the mind, and in the heart. Help it heal the hurt it is feeling. Love it to help it.

As a holistic therapist, I am very interested in getting to know my clients’ pain in the neck – friend. Both by identifying the location of the sore spots and through reflexology and energy work to trace it to the body’s source. . I listen carefully to the pain descriptions used to learn the emotional source. A friendly discussion will often reveal the thinking pattern or story behind the pain. The best remedy will then easily flow out to be applied to soothe and relieve the pain – the neck.